if you think sex is nothing, you gave up too soon

If you think sex is nothing*, think about this: 

If every one experienced real tantric sex just once (when you transcend space and time and your whole being is profoundly healed and refreshed from deep immersion in the Source of Life) all porn, sex toys, fixation on appearances, and misguided obsessions would be obsolete.

A friend said this.

For me, what is described as tantric sex is transcendent sex, the only kind of sex that interests me. It is when two beings meet and try to connect with one another's radiant essence.  Anything less than this kind of sex should have another name. 

I especially like the above quote because I believe transcendent sex is also healing sex. I believe sex has become degraded in this culture, trivialized. Many think sex is nothing but physical pleasure.  It is more than physical pleasure. It is sacred, should only be undertaken with people one has deep, reverent love for and with people one wishes to touch their radiance, their souls.

I have read that the proliferation of porn on the internet is damaging people's ability to have transcendant, sex. Or, maybe, just good sex.  I have never looked at porn on the internet, not once, not even a google. Geez, if I googled porn, I bet I'd get ads for porn as I surf other topics!

I heard a speaker at the OM (orgasmic meditation) extravaganza in Oakland talk about transcendent sex. She was hawking her book on transcendent sex. Listening to her was the first time I heard my kind of sex described, first time I learned that what I have experienced, and want in my sex life, happens to others.  That's what I want.   Transcendant sex. It's humans loving one in another at deep levels, an effort to touch the other's being. It is not ultimately possible to touch another being's being but it can be very pleasurable trying, to try to achieve energetic union.

Any other kind of sex amounts to animals rutting.  I've had that kind of sex. That kind of sex is nothing.

Transcendent sex can be scary because one reveals one's self and sees the other's self. That's scary. With love and trust, however, it is awesome.

If someone says 'sex is nothing', that someone is a broken being, damaged in his or her sexuality. And they likely are having sex with the wrong people for the wrong reasons. Rutting like animals is not one of the reasons for humans to have sex.

*Someone told me, when I expressed an interest in resuming having a sex life after a period of celibacy, that sex is nothing. This person proceeded to go into sad, elaborate detail about how nothing sex was to hum and how I should not desire sex because it is 'nothing'. "Once you have it, it's nothing. It doesn't mean a thing." Maybe it's nothing if one has mechanistic, obligatory animal rutting sex. My kind of sex is not nothing. It's transcendance. Sacred. Reverence for the sacred in one another.