critical importance of kindness

kindness is an orientation?

This article, from The Atlantic, is pretty good. It reports on studies of married couples but there are useful insights into how subtle kindness can be.

I think kindness is an orientation of one's own being. If one assumes those one interacts with have a foundational orientation towards us of caring, then it is more possible to receive their behavior in a positive light, even when their choices appear unkind to us.

I am not suggesting I am always kind but I strongly claim that I try to be, being the work in progress that I am.