my favorite moment in tgroup this past weekend

We did something new to me and the facilitators have only done it once before.  Each tgroup sat in a circle with the other group surrounding us while we did our tgroup in front of them. Then the other group gave us feedback.

One young woman's feedback for me still has my heart singing.  She said "It seemed like Tree felt she could do whatever she wanted and everything she did seemed to help and please the whole group."

I tend to feel free to do whatever I want in all my life. I live in Open Space.

Open Space Technology was first identified by Harrison Owen but Harrison is the first person to declaim credit. He simply identified the way the world works when free of constraints.

In open space there are a few guidelines.

1. whoever shows up are the right people
2. when it starts it starts
3. when it stops it stops
4. whatever happens is the only thing that could or should

There is only one law in Open Space: the law of two feet. If you find yourself in an experience, or, at a conference, in a session that does not engage you, if you don't feel you are either contributing or getting something out of it, walk away. Go to where you feel drawn. Life works like this. We all live in Open Space if we just free ourselves into Open  Space.

I am free. I live in Open Space. I do tend to feel free, except in abusive relationships when I am attacked (usually by men), mostly because I feel free to say what I am really thinking and many men seem to think women should tamp themselves down. Fuck that.

I am proud that one young therapist in training saw how free I felt and saw that what I said in my fishbowl tgroup was warmly appreciated by my group.

I did feel free. It would never occur to me that I am not free to say what I wish. Sure sometimes I get negative reactions to my 'free', often blunt, often direct open speaking. Those people locked themselves in closed space. I won't own others' failure to be free and self loving.

I am not used to feeling warmly appreciated by men.